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THANK GOD FOR MY GIRLFRIENDS

By May 7, 2018August 28th, 2020No Comments
THANK GOD FOR MY GIRLFRIENDS!!  I DO ALSO LOVE MY MALE FRIENDS BUT HONESTLY, MY GIRLFRIENDS ARE THE ONES WHO ARE THERE FOR ME AT THE DROP OF A DIME.  ESPECIALLY WHEN I NEED TO HAVE A HEART TO HEART CONVERSATION WHICH IS USUALLY ALWAYS.  I TYPICALLY GO STRAIGHT FOR THE “REAL” TALK WITH MY GIRLFRIENDS.  NO SMALL TALK! WE OFTEN DO NOT NEED TO PLAN FOR THIS TO HAPPEN EITHER!  IT COULD BE VERY SPONTANEOUS OVER TRYING ON SOME SHOES OR IT CAN BE PLANNED OVER A GLASS A WINE AT ONE OF MY FAVORITE RESTAURANTS. I CAN OPEN MY HEART AND ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT FAMILY, LOVE, THE PLANET, SHOES, RELATIONSHIPS, THE END OF THE WORLD, THE BEGINNING OF LIFE, POLITICS, RACISM, GUNS, FLOWERS, SEX-OR LACK OF IT-LOL.

I WAS GOING TO SAY THAT I AM LUCKY TO HAVE SO MANY GIRLFRIENDS BUT TRULY LUCK HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. I LIKE TO THINK I TAKE TIME TO NURTURE MOST OF MY FRIENDSHIPS. I TRY TO CARE FOR THEM WITH THE SAME ATTENTION THAT I RECEIVE FROM THEM.  WHEN I WAS GETTING A DIVORCE, I REALLY REALIZED THAT I NEEDED TO DEVELOP FRIENDSHIPS.  ULTIMATELY, THESE FRIENDSHIPS HAVE BEEN MY SAVING GRACE DURING RELATIONSHIPS JUST AS MUCH AS WHEN I HAVE BEEN SINGLE.

FRIENDSHIPS ARE NOT UNLIKE ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS.  ACTIONS NEED TO BE MUTUAL.  YOU LISTEN TO ME, I’LL LISTEN TO YOU.  YOU NEED HELP, I’LL BE THERE AND LIKEWISE.  I HAVE FOUND MYSELF HAVING FALLING OUTS WITH FRIENDS.  JUST LIKE WHEN YOU BREAK UP FROM A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP, IT HURTS TERRIBLY. YOU WONDER HOW YOU GOT TO THAT PLACE OF BREAKUP.  YOU FEEL GUILTY, HURT AND INDIGNANT.  AND THE WORSE THING IS THAT YOU KNOW YOUR FORMER FRIEND IS BEING CONSOLED BY A DIFFERENT OR NEW GOOD FRIEND.  IT IS LIKE YOUR EX-BOYFRIEND GOING DANCING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN TO GET YOU OUT OF HIS MIND!!!!!

I REMEMBER HAVING BREAK UPS WITH FRIENDS WHEN I WAS AROUND 12 YEARS OLD.  WE WOULD GET MAD, ROLL OUR EYES AND GET UPSET WITH EACH OTHER AND THAT WAS THAT.  NOW WE DELETE OUR FORMER FRIENDS FROM OUR SOCIAL MEDIA.  WE GET EXCLUDED FROM DINNER PARTIES.  WE RUN INTO EACH OTHER AT THE GROCERY STORE AND LOOK AWAY.  I KNOW THAT I HAVE CAUSED FRIENDS TO BE IRRITATED WITH ME AND I HAVE BEEN DELETED! IT’S OK.   I HAVE DELETED THEM, TOO. I WISH DELETING WAS SIMPLE BUT IT IS NOT.  BEING HUMAN IS COMPLICATED.
AS I GET OLDER, I ACCEPT THAT I LOSE SOME FRIENDSHIPS BUT I GAIN OTHERS.  THESE HUMAN CONNECTIONS BRING HAPPINESS INTO MY LIFE. THEY ENRICH ME AND IT FEELS GOOD TO KNOW THAT I ENRICH THEM, TOO.
YUP… YUPPP ….YUPPP. I LOVE MY GIRLFRIENDS.

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